DIVALISHOUS: Honouring the orgasmic woman within

There is a woman that stands before you; this woman believes it is a blessing to be a woman – whole and at peace within herself. Honouring her experiences, she tells her stories taking responsibility for who she is and what she stands for.  A woman, who acknowledges the past, lives in the moment and who is excited about her future.

This woman is in love with her body and believes she is worthy enough. She celebrates her shape and accepts her body as an exquisite resource for the mind and soul.

This is a woman who embraces her sexuality, exploring her erotic sensitivities and rhythms, moving with the ebb and flow of pleasuring herself. She knows she is divine and is the reflection of all she creates, designing her own spirituality. A woman who is the author of her own life, knowing each moment is a true manifestation of her desires; a woman who chooses friends and lovers that respect her.

A woman that as a child, daughter, sister, lover, partner, wife and mother, knows that the true essence of who she is moves deeply within the core of her beliefs. This woman is an incredible, uniquely talented woman, with something very special to give “HERSELF”. This woman is YOU!

As women we are a:

Divine, Incredible, Vivacious, Artistic, Loveable, Inspiring, Sensitive, Humble, Open, Unique, Sensual

It is time to tap into your DIVA SENSUAL SOURCE and put the sexy back into your life. Every woman is gifted with this knowledge but, like most energies, we have to give birth to it and allow the energy to move with us. As we grow and mature, through all of our life experiences, you evolve with more confidence, wanting to live with more purpose, so you can be your authentic self, knowing that those choices you have made in the past do not define who you are, they encourage you to be the best you can be for yourself and your family.

We don’t loose our sexiness, our sensual selves or our confidence. We give it away!  In our day to day lives as women, we wear a multitude of hats and the roles we play strip us of our very core, because we are naturally and universally nurturers, teachers and lovers of the world, giving without question, until the very energy you draw from depletes.

We disconnect from ourselves and we become empty and void of love.  It does not matter where you have come from or what you have experienced.  All that needs to concern you is where you are right now and what you are going to do to honour your dreams, desires and passions so you can start to believe in yourself.

The greatest gift you can give to all the incredible women that share your life is allow them to witness you accepting yourself and loving who you are. In loving yourself you become a representation to all women of what can be achieved when you make the decision to live the life you desire – where you accept that there is no other option than to live a brilliant life and where honouring the orgasmic women within is the only belief you need.

 Black Rose Magazine – February 2010

Melissa Cooper – Intimacy, Relationship & Sex Coach

The Art Of Intimacy

0404-016969

www.melcooper.com.au

Find the Joy in Separation.

One of the most challenging aspects of life, is one of separation. Separation in the family and intimate relationships can be a devastating and debilitating experience for all concerned, but it does not have to be, it all comes down to choice.  How you choose to react is very important, most people going through a separation not only just feel the loss of a loved one through grief, but they can face abandonment, guilt and rejection which all fuel anger that determines our response to the one we are separated from.

Let’s look at a relationship breakdown.  Most breakdowns occur because one partner feels that their needs are not been met, so they seek this out in other areas of their life, affairs, gambling, drinking etc and the separation in the relationship begins to unfold.  The interesting part of this is, the emotions each partner has being feeling started before all of this began manifesting into reality, but they never communicated this, so resentment, guilt, anger and blame start to fuel, opening the door for separation even wider, until it is too late and the relationship has ended.  In other areas of relationship breakdowns, you come face to face with your partner just not being in-love with you, and their desire to connect with another person begins to create separation, again fuelling emotions that play a large part in our reactions to the situation. 

What makes these experiences more devastating is when children are involved in a relationship breakdown and then the parents/partners feel that as they have lost control of the relationship, they can manipulate response through the children.  As much as we would like the father or the mother of the child to be someone different when going through a separation, it is not going to change and regardless of what your partner may or may not have done to you, you have to accept who they are and who they represent to the child.   In some cases this is not possible but for most relationship breakdowns, when we stop trying to control how another should feel, think or act, then we naturally respond to the separation instead of reacting to it.

When you stop trying to make your partner suffer, then you will stop the suffering within yourself. 

Try this little exercise;  next time you have to communicate with your partner, just for a moment think about  your approach, and then place yourself in your partner’s shoes and say, if he or she approached me in the same way I am about to approach this situation, how would I respond.  Then if you feel that you are going to become defensive to the communication, you need to change the delivery.  We complain that our partner does not listen, or understand how we feel, but you must first listen to yourself and understand what you are truly feeling before your partner can.  When you stop being a victim to your own emotions, then you’ll stop trying to take advantage of how your partner should and shouldn’t feel.

Communicating how you feel is a key to coming face to face with the places that scare you in any relationship breakdown, and if you feel that this is not something you can effectively do on your own, then seek professional assistance to help mediate the relationship back to a harmonious balance.

One of the most important aspects of healing in any separation is to look at the lessons you need to learn, and the part you played in creating it in the first place.

CREATING A PASSIONATE MARRIAGE WITH PURPOSE!

HOT MONOGAMY

Creating a passionate marriage with purpose….

“Passion lights the fire in our souls, just being in the presence of your partner and you feel suddenly happy, being together and you feel ecstatic.  Your partner fulfils something deep within, your heart starts to sing and you fall into harmony, knowing that somebody, somehow completes you.”

Finding opportunities within your relationship to express the love you share gives you a blank canvas to create the passionate marriage you desire.

You are not born knowing how to have intimate relations, you must learn, just as a painter learns to create a masterpiece, with time, patience and practice, you can master your marriage and keep the embers burning brightly and hot monogamy well and truly alive in the bedroom with a few simple tips.

Creating time to share intimate moments together where you can communicate your needs is imperative to establishing and maintaining passion. Take the time to learn about each others needs, listen to how your partner is expressing themselves and most importantly make a habit of giving and receiving to each other, especially in the bedroom.  Communication will unlock the door to having an open and honest relationship that ultimately builds trust so you can surrender into love-making, which creates passion long after the lights go out.

Women love directly from the heart and men love physically, so guys a little note to remember when you want to make love, foreplay is imperative to the process, take your time to explore her body, pleasuring her is of the utmost importance so she completely relaxes into you, compliment her, reassure her and validate her and allow her the grace to open like a flower in full bloom giving of her body and honouring you by receiving your love. 

Girls, remember that your man is a loving, caring and considerate partner who wants to express how much he desires you how much he loves you, and how important you are to him.  Verbally expressing this may be a little difficult at times so his natural basic instinct is to express his love physically. As he responds to your emotional and physical needs, validate his worth as the man you love, and adore with a cuddle, a kiss or some cheeky foreplay.

Honour each other, give to each other without expectation for something in return, this is loving unconditionally, and always be grateful for the wonderful person that shares your life.

A basic human need is to be touched, another is expression, make them a priority in your marriage, give it purpose and you will always have passion.  Laying the foundation for intimacy is like gardening…..Tend to the soil, plant the seeds, feed, water and nurture so you can truly enjoy your garden of Eden that you both can share.

WHITE MAGAZINE – MAY 2009

We are all longing to connect, and as we place importance on connecting with that special someone, we fill a temporary space in our hearts until we realise that the soul we long to connect with is our own. The most important relationship you can have is with yourself. I know this sounds awfully cliché, but the reality is that there is truth in it.

I always get asked the question, when will I find my soul mate? We place so much emphasis on finding the perfect partner, that when we finally do, we realise that they are not so perfect after all. Is that because they reflect back to us, our own imperfections, or have we placed conditions on the relationship, whilst we still long for unconditional love?

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