The Sufi teacher Hazrat Inayat Khan said, “Love is the sign of Spirit”.
The concept of SACRED can be thought of as a rich source of psychic or libidinous energy in the body. Sexual arousal and SACRED movement is synonymous. Body consciousness is introduced through touch, Tantric tools and dialog. Allow yourself to receive.
Be prepared to leave your ego at the door or on the table. Karma will determine your experience and spirit will guide you. Receiving touch is an individual affair. Each person experiences touch in their own special way.
“When the breath is unsteady, all is unsteady, when the breath is still, all is still. Control the breath carefully.”
Tantra or Sacred Union/Sex is the practice of bringing two loving partners together in more than just a physical manner. Holding the space for sacred union means we extend, expand, spread and weave energies with each other. The idea is to extend your mind and encompass your body to achieve the ultimate satisfaction. In the practice of Tantra/Sacred Union, there is a sort of “being-consciousness-bliss” which has the power of self-evolution and self-involution (learning and expanding and looking into oneself). Therefore, the evolution of self helps to bring two people closer together.
One essential element of Tantra is taking time to become absorbed in oneself and your partner. The methods learned and used provide sensations and sexual pleasure far more intense and complex than just a simple orgasm. In Sacred Union, the orgasm is simply a by-product of the connectedness we feel with our partner.
Tantric sex is not a race to the finish. Tantra is slow and purposeful. While traditional Tantrists will practice the slow lovemaking for hours upon hours, the average person trying to learn Tantra is not going to have the patience or, quite frankly, the willpower to devote such time. The idea is to not rush, it is to enjoy by staying in presence with each other and allowing yourself to be receptive to the feeling state of being that your body is experiencing.
Many of the ancient tantric practices involve elaborate preparations that celebrate all the senses—including different foods and wine for taste, flowers for sight, incense for smell, bells and other musical instruments for sound, and our bodies for touch. The most important element in the sacred sexual practices is the acceptance and enjoyment of all the things that give us pleasure, and an appreciation of beauty.
Why should Sex be Sacred?
The dictionary defines sacred as “made or declared holy, dedicated or devoted exclusively to a use, purpose, or person worthy of reverence or respect.”The word itself comes from the Latin, sacra meaning “sacred, holy, consecrated,” that is, blessed or revered. The noun (singular) is sacrum, meaning a holy thing or place. It is no mistake that the Sacrum in the physical body is the home to Kundalini or Shakti energy. When aroused through Tantric practice, the Kundalini rises up the spine to awaken the spiritual centers within the body-brain.
Sacred is understood differently in indigenous cultures where the concept of sacred is one of relationship rather than separation. In native cultures, humans, animals, plants, and especially the Earth herself are sacred because we are all part of the Whole. No one and no thing have to be proven worthy to be considered sacred. All of creation is inherently sacred because it is part of the interconnected web of ecology that sustains life. In this worldview, Earth is not only seen as sacred but as a living being. Sacred is a kind of awareness, not a function of ego, of the logical mind, but more of an intuitive or direct awareness of patterns running through everything around us. This is sometimes called synchronicity, or the Tao.
Sacred Sexuality is a part of virtually every spiritual tradition around the world. In the last couple of decades elements of Tantra have been blended or fused with elements from Taoism, Native American, African, Christian, Pagan, and Jewish paths as a basis for re-visioning sexuality.
Sacred Sexuality acknowledges that our life force and our sexual energy originate from the same source. It’s an expression of awe and wonder that transcends any particular culture.
Sex is sacred because of its role in bonding. Mutually satisfying sexual exchanges naturally intensify bonding, but sex can take place without bonding if we’re careful to keep our hearts closed. Sex opens the heart only if we bring the energy up. The Tantric attitudes of slowing down, awakening all of the senses, tuning in to subtle energy, letting go of judgment and blame, expressing gratitude for the gift of life, and savoring the present moment are wonderfully supportive tools for intimate relating.
To bond with someone is to form an enduring connection — to feel a strong sense of mutual caring, intimacy, and appreciation. Bonding satisfies our need to belong and can occur in the absence of sex whenever a powerful shared experience creates a feeling of kinship. People live longer and have fewer problems when they have a family-social-community context. Sex helps bring people together and keep them together.
Sexual energy works its magic far beyond the plant and animal level as well. Look at gravity! Gravity is the name we give to the force of mutual attraction that holds the cosmos together, but spiritual teachers throughout the ages have pointed out that magnetic pull is just another name for erotic or sexual energy. Sex is sacred because of its role in accessing peak experiences of love, oneness, and healing. Humans have an innate need for experiences of bliss, merging, and ecstasy. We have a deep longing for the (re) union of sex and spirit, for union with the Divine. When we access expanded states of consciousness through sex we validate our intuitive sense that sex can be worship and that worship can be erotic. Tantra and other paths of Erotic Spirituality teach us to embrace and honour the body as a temple of Spirit, rather than trying to deny the bodies natural impulses.
So when we bless, purify, or honour the body as part of a sexual encounter, when we bond more deeply as a result of lovemaking, or when sexual union catapults us into higher consciousness, we make sex sacred and we have come home to each other and ourselves in Sacred Union.
All valid spiritual practice takes one in the direction of awakening to Oneness, and Sexuality which feeds the ego and creates separation simply isn’t welcome in your house of Love.
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